film 2007

so i have just watched a film which has thoroughly depressed me, and i thought i'd like to talk about it, in an attempt to figure out why..
its a horrible thing, when the two people you have just watched a film with, turn round at the end and seem to have been kind of enthalled with it, when all you can think is, goodness, i'm glad that's over...
the last kiss, with zach braff, summer from the OC and a small but very welcome contribution from tom wilkinson...
i would describe it as an unfunny, slightly dull, very predictable, american version of love actually....insomuch that it follows the love-lives and break-ups and fall-outs of a set of people who are all connected and whose lives begin unravelling at the same time, so that they are rendered mostly unable to help eachother..
i found it so sad, partly because the people in it are mostly far too young to be having mid-life crises, and partly because they just make really shit decisions..
i think how it has left me feeling, is that i don't even want to be in love or get married, if those are the inevitable, or excuseable or most likely pitfalls. it seems like fear wins out over love, and to be honest, i think that above pretty much anything else, that is an idea i find hardest to stomach.
the others loved the film..they saw the redemption and the hope, but i felt like the film was saying, its ok for these things to happen, the affairs and the fleeing responsibility and whatever else, beecause it'll all work out in the end.
i know what you're thinking, come on lady, that's what grace is all about...but i have to confess, i think i am still naive enough to think that grace also means we also have the hope that we can walk away, and not let fear control us in the first place.
the people in the film are all so afraid..of being stuck, of not being able to see things through, of having their lives controlled by decisions they only half-made or extenal things that they can't undo...
there is a fatalistic feeling about it that i hate, that no matter how much you have love or know love, fear will still dictate to you
my mood and lack of sleep over this last week have probably contributed to my perceptions of the movie...so if you liked it, i'm sorry for the tirade..if you haven't seen it, ignore this and lets just hope i get some better sleep soon...!